While I'm still working on getting the Lent blogs caught up, time does continue to march on, so we're sharing the Presiding Bishop's message for this Easter. May it be a blessing to you!
Friday, March 25, 2016
Thursday, March 24, 2016
Lent: Relationship With God's Creation - Soil
The worksheet for this section of the program talks about your relationship with God's creation. We'll begin with the first video which talks about what's in the soil, both in a literal and metaphorical sense.
So, print out the worksheet twice, and fill in what you have currently. Then fill in what your idea is, and figure out a rule to get you there. What type of soil do you want in your heart?
So, print out the worksheet twice, and fill in what you have currently. Then fill in what your idea is, and figure out a rule to get you there. What type of soil do you want in your heart?
Lent: Love or Attachment
The video on this topic is probably one of the more deeply philosophical concepts the Brothers at SSJE have addressed, so it may take you a time or two through it to determine where this might fit in your life.
Usually, we hear about love as being a specific type or another, generally reverting back to the various Greek words for love:
Usually, we hear about love as being a specific type or another, generally reverting back to the various Greek words for love:
Agape, or love for everyoneThis discussion today, however, posits that all love comes from God, and that we should focus on that, so that we don't form an attachment to the love we might individually generate, thereby diminishing the connection that could otherwise be full with the presence of God. Is this a monastic idea or one that we need to seriously consider for ourselves? And where might it fit into your rule of life? Take a look.
Eros, or sexual passion
Philia, or deep friendship
Ludus, or playful love
Pragma, or longstanding love
Philautia, or love of the self
Wednesday, March 23, 2016
Lent: Getting to Yes
Saying that two letter word can be so tough at times. Br. Luke hits it directly on the head in this video. How many times do we agree to do things, because, as people know, if you need something done, ask a busy person. And often behind every busy person is an inability to say "no."
However, this exercise is about building a Rule of Life, about finding things that are good for us, healthy for us, that make us better able to serve God and serve others. And sometimes, saying "no" will allow us to be in a better frame of mind, in better health, and in a better spiritual place to then be able to say "yes".
Setting boundaries, learning that you don't have to try to please everyone all the time - these are very difficult lessons for some people. Here's a collection of articles that might be able to help.
Look at your schedule. Look at some of the things you already know are good for you - are some of the things in your schedule interfering with your ability to do the things that are good for you? Things like exercise, preparing healthy meals, getting enough sleep, etc. Where do you need to say no? And what do you need to clear away so that you can say a health "yes" to?
However, this exercise is about building a Rule of Life, about finding things that are good for us, healthy for us, that make us better able to serve God and serve others. And sometimes, saying "no" will allow us to be in a better frame of mind, in better health, and in a better spiritual place to then be able to say "yes".
Setting boundaries, learning that you don't have to try to please everyone all the time - these are very difficult lessons for some people. Here's a collection of articles that might be able to help.
Look at your schedule. Look at some of the things you already know are good for you - are some of the things in your schedule interfering with your ability to do the things that are good for you? Things like exercise, preparing healthy meals, getting enough sleep, etc. Where do you need to say no? And what do you need to clear away so that you can say a health "yes" to?
Lent: Thriving
Br. Nicholas expressed an excellent point in this video - which can be summed up in the KISS principle. We'll go with the nicer version, and say that it means Keep It Short and Simple. And the short and simple of it is, what works? Do that.
In looking at our relationships and our interactions with others, look at what has worked best for you in the past, what has made you feel good and achieved what you want to achieve. In most instances, it's a fairly simple solution.
I have a friend whose very first response to absolutely everything is "No." I'm not sure if that's her method of keeping things simple, but it has led to no small amount of frustration on my part, because sometimes, what I'm asking is - at least to me - a very easy, logical, simple request. But, I have learned that if I accept her no, and then give her a day, she thinks about it, processes it through both her brain and her huge heart, within a day, she's altered her answer. Now, the answer may still be no, but this time, she'll have a logical argument against whatever it is. More times than not, however, the answer is either an unqualified yes, or a qualified yes, and again, she'll have very logical and sound reasoning. So the lesson for me in this KISS process is, don't get frustrated, just wait a day.
Part of this can also be explained through personality "types". The one I learned is called PACE, and essentially they divide how people think and react into colors: red (big picture, bottom line, very dynamic), blue (emotional, heart motivated), yellow (all the details, down to the very last one, very organized), and green (everything is about why). Now, the world needs all of those colors, but in learning about someone, you learn how to communicate. If you have a yellow person who has to talk to a red person, they're going to get really frustrated, really fast - particularly if they don't know how the other communicates. If the yellow person is aware they're talking to a red person, they have to bite their tongue about all the details, and give an overview and the expected result - then stop. Really hard to do, but the red person then has as much information as they need and want - because they actually trust that the yellow person knows and has done their job in all the details that they can't stand - to make a decision.
Think about your relationships with others. What makes you thrive? What feeds your soul? What nurtures you and helps you grow?
Do that.
I have a friend whose very first response to absolutely everything is "No." I'm not sure if that's her method of keeping things simple, but it has led to no small amount of frustration on my part, because sometimes, what I'm asking is - at least to me - a very easy, logical, simple request. But, I have learned that if I accept her no, and then give her a day, she thinks about it, processes it through both her brain and her huge heart, within a day, she's altered her answer. Now, the answer may still be no, but this time, she'll have a logical argument against whatever it is. More times than not, however, the answer is either an unqualified yes, or a qualified yes, and again, she'll have very logical and sound reasoning. So the lesson for me in this KISS process is, don't get frustrated, just wait a day.
Part of this can also be explained through personality "types". The one I learned is called PACE, and essentially they divide how people think and react into colors: red (big picture, bottom line, very dynamic), blue (emotional, heart motivated), yellow (all the details, down to the very last one, very organized), and green (everything is about why). Now, the world needs all of those colors, but in learning about someone, you learn how to communicate. If you have a yellow person who has to talk to a red person, they're going to get really frustrated, really fast - particularly if they don't know how the other communicates. If the yellow person is aware they're talking to a red person, they have to bite their tongue about all the details, and give an overview and the expected result - then stop. Really hard to do, but the red person then has as much information as they need and want - because they actually trust that the yellow person knows and has done their job in all the details that they can't stand - to make a decision.
Think about your relationships with others. What makes you thrive? What feeds your soul? What nurtures you and helps you grow?
Do that.
Lent: Conflict Resolution
In today's world, the opinions expressed by Br. John in the video are not uncommon. Conflict, differences of opinion, holding viewpoints that contrast with our own - these are reasons to end relationships, not learn from them.
When I was growing up, my father, the social historian, taught us both history and rhetoric as dinner table conversation. He would bring up a particular conflict in history, and we would have to be able to argue either side of that conflict from the point of view assigned to us. This required that we get to know the why people had various opinions and positions. And in learning this, we learned that in arguments there are always at least two sides to things, often more. So for me, every argument was an excellent opportunity to learn about people, and particularly about the person I was arguing with. It was fun. And both sides gained from the experience. Unfortunately, most people tend to view conflicts as what I call a fight. And I will avoid fights as much as possible, because they're never fun, and generally, both sides lose, not just the particular conflict, but respect for one another, and feelings get hurt.
So let's put this back into the religious forum, into the creation of your Rule of Life. There are certainly some instances where a fight is definitely an instance where something is wrong and needs to be corrected. A friend posted the meme here at the side, and we can see that Christ, one of the most peace-loving, willing to explain and teach and talk about anything kind of people, was willing to fight to right a wrong.
But also think about His normal mode of being. He didn't exactly hang out with people who likely shared His points of view. But he didn't get into conflicts with them either. He talked, He taught, He listened and learned what was important to them, and where they were coming from, so that He knew how to teach them what they needed to know.
Looking at the chart you've been working on regarding relationships and where they need to be strengthened and nurtured, go ahead and ask yourself the question, WWJD, and see if you can emulate our greatest teacher in the process.
When I was growing up, my father, the social historian, taught us both history and rhetoric as dinner table conversation. He would bring up a particular conflict in history, and we would have to be able to argue either side of that conflict from the point of view assigned to us. This required that we get to know the why people had various opinions and positions. And in learning this, we learned that in arguments there are always at least two sides to things, often more. So for me, every argument was an excellent opportunity to learn about people, and particularly about the person I was arguing with. It was fun. And both sides gained from the experience. Unfortunately, most people tend to view conflicts as what I call a fight. And I will avoid fights as much as possible, because they're never fun, and generally, both sides lose, not just the particular conflict, but respect for one another, and feelings get hurt.
But also think about His normal mode of being. He didn't exactly hang out with people who likely shared His points of view. But he didn't get into conflicts with them either. He talked, He taught, He listened and learned what was important to them, and where they were coming from, so that He knew how to teach them what they needed to know.
Looking at the chart you've been working on regarding relationships and where they need to be strengthened and nurtured, go ahead and ask yourself the question, WWJD, and see if you can emulate our greatest teacher in the process.
Saturday, March 19, 2016
Lent: Unconditional Love
This video deals with a subject that pretty much all of us deal with at one point or another. And usually, we approach the concept of "unconditional love" from the point that, Jesus gave His love unconditionally, and we must strive to emulate that. Certainly, that is true, and WWJD (What would Jesus Do?) is absolutely something to consider in all aspects of your life.
But! For today, I want you to think about people in your own life - parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, grandparents, friends, teachers, mentors, etc. - and figure out who has provided you with what felt to you like unconditional love and acceptance, support and belonging? Think back on times with them, and how you felt. What did they do differently than other people? What did you do differently that allowed you to accept that love from them?
Because Br. Robert is correct - we are often our own worst enemy when it comes to being able to accept unconditional love.
So now take it the next step. Have you accepted the unconditional love that Christ brings to you?
But! For today, I want you to think about people in your own life - parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, grandparents, friends, teachers, mentors, etc. - and figure out who has provided you with what felt to you like unconditional love and acceptance, support and belonging? Think back on times with them, and how you felt. What did they do differently than other people? What did you do differently that allowed you to accept that love from them?
Because Br. Robert is correct - we are often our own worst enemy when it comes to being able to accept unconditional love.
So now take it the next step. Have you accepted the unconditional love that Christ brings to you?
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